This can be difficult to accept when the thoughts seem so real and true.

You might look for evidence that you are liked - for instance: Are people generally pleased to see you? Im a fan of Emile Coue´ with his Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better and one of my favourites is, Whatever life throws at me today I will handle beautifully. When I feel myself becoming negative I use positive self-talk, and the little catch phrase I use to myself is I dont need that. I devised an imaginary cupboard where I would put my worries and close the door on them. By learning to relax, taking more exercise, eating and drinking more sensibly, learning not to fear panic attacks, practising self-exposure and turning negative thoughts to positive, youll feel more able to cope with your life as it is now. The surge causes physical sensations that increase dramatically as the attack progresses. Tranquillisers (or benzodiazepines) are the most commons source of this difficulty. Typical situations which cause anxiety are: Now relax and feel the difference. So examples of core beliefs might be: Im fine as I am other people generally mean well the worlds my oyster. Apprehension - what does the future hold? ABOUT SELECTIVE ATTENTION I do have negative thought patterns but Im working on it. But, rather like the Critic, a dominant Perfectionist will tell you that youll never be good enough. Read cartoons, in a newspaper or book. Superwoman is a myth. Sit quietly and feel how the hands move as you breathe. The most important thing is that you want to shift it, and that you have the motivation to do so. ABOUT THE ANXIETY EXPERIENCE When I was 34 my mother died suddenly when I was with her. You feel tense and unable to relax. Asking for reassurance Your helper needs a special technique if you tend to ask repeatedly for reassurance that something is alright, or is done. In the lift example the person might set boundaries in this way: Thinking: your thoughts may race, be anxious or obsessive.